...Of Condoms, thrusts and trust

“It’s smooooth, sleeeek, suave, sexy, erotic, spicy…” and the voice trailed off even before the words could get my attention. Then I heard one of Barry White’s baritoned collections playing slowly at the background. The tune was unknown to me but I couldn’t be bothered, I was just hoping I could catch the last part of the advert playing on the radio. Before I knew it, the raspy voice had come up again to finish the radio commercial by saying “use Golden Lily condoms for guaranteed satisfaction. Golden Lily! For smooooth thrusting”.

I was wowed and all I could do was shake my head and smile at the advert that had just played on the radio. I have been within the listening radius of that radio for the past two hours but until the condoms advert played, I realized I had been oblivious of its existence all this while, let alone the proximity. I wanted to retrospect and find out what was actually occupying my thoughts all these while but I was more occupied with how this particular advert got my attention. 

It wasn’t far-fetched. Society has programmed some words or symbols to provoke our thoughts or invoke our attention that is why the least attentive person would turn his neck to look at the person who said “vagina”, “virgin”, “sex”, “rape”, “kiss” and not give a damn at the mention of a “pencil” “lion” and what have you.

I started pondering over the advert, with regards to the audacity in the man’s voice and the fact that it was playing on primetime radio. I shook my head again and gave up with a shrug, borne out of fear and pity rather than carelessness for our society. Whatever or whoever Society is, must be a strong entity with a character of its own, non-conforming to anyone’s thoughts or compromising with anyone. It only imposes changes, dictates and bullies one into submission.

If you happen to be living in the 21^st century, specifically the last twenty years or even more, then you must be privy to all the antics and stunts the century has had to offer us and it’s potential to carry us on. We have been bombarded with influx of innovations and the supposed right way forward. The introduction and what those innovative entries seek to do, only leave one with awe and other times, disappointment. Some of these innovations have manifest and latent motives and sooner or later, they tend to fulfill their purposes for which they were manufactured.

Latex condoms among other acclaimed panaceas were introduced into the market to help relieve people of their after-thoughts and burden that characterizes sex and its related consequences such as Sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy, and that was how the world of sex changed.

Hitherto the introduction of Condoms, sex has been prevalent among the people but it was not this apparent. People were afraid to have sex for the fear of contracting all kinds of sexually transmitted diseases or for the fear of getting pregnant. People only want to have sex devoid of strings or anything that will make them revisit that sex session. They want to be done and gone without traces or hindrances. We now live in a world of fast cars, fast business transactions; fast internet speeds, fast foods and sex of all pervasive activities had to come along. Who wants to wait till another month to ascertain her pregnancy status anyway?

The Condom also made it easier for wives to cheat on their husbands knowing that they won’t become pregnant for another man which is an abomination though. The patronage perhaps went high, so it became a brisk business for those who would exploit the ignorance of man just to build an empire. Different types were then introduced to the market and they came in different colours, durability, flavour and spice hence the scrambling for airtime and patronage.

Fast forwarded to now, the condoms have become obsolete to most active sex couples. They will have unprotected sex because they don’t see why they should be eating a candy in a rubber and it is as simple as that! You would have thought that the rampant sex sessions and with multiple sex partners were all due to the availability of condoms, but the introduction of all these emergency contraceptives and morning-after pills eroded that notion. All they had to do is have unprotected sex and lots of it, then take a pill in the next 72 hours depending on which type and its efficacy.

The condom is supposed to protect you from pregnancy and contracting of STD’s even though it isn’t foolproof but the people totally gave up on condoms when the Postinor and its cohorts were introduced. Most people engaged in active but casual sex do not care about how many people or whom their sexual partners have slept with; they will go to bed with you unprotected without a flicker of a regretful thought. 

It is even interesting to note that one of the ways to go to bed with people without they questioning your unfaithfulness and sex crazed life is to be nice and open to your potential sex partner. Familiarity alone makes people feel safe with their sexual partners to the extent that, they feel free to have raw and unprotected sex with them. For some men, as soon as the lady comes home to cook for them or wash a couple of their clothes, it means they are trustworthy and can be thrust just like that.

What is the correlation between trust and STD’s that, just trusting someone cleanses the person of the tendency or the person’s ability to be living with one kind of disease? Sometimes, the air of friendship between the couple even makes them shy away from reminding each other that if it’s not on, it’s not in. we also have those who equate the lady’s beauty or the man’s handsomeness to their health status. They don’t see why a beautiful girl from a good home should even be carrying a virus. And for others, they will have protected sex for about three times and then switch to unprotected sex because they both have passed the longevity and the commitment test. 

Fact that you have grown to like someone or trust them does not mean that, they also trust you, it does not also mean that you are possibly the only sexual partner they thrust and the tendency for your partner’s partner to have another partner who has another partner is so probable that you can’t leave anything to chance. Good old abstinence is still the right way to go but if you feel like having some thrust, do not let trust or familiarity erode your senses, go for some good suave, sexy and smooooth condoms.