Sex - Key to knowledge (II)

I have come to believe that the world basically revolves around sex, hence my affinity to the Freudian school of thought which postulates that, the existence of the libido is the underlying subconscious energy with which mental processes and structures are invested and which also generates erotic attachments, and a death drive, the source of repetition, hate, aggression and neurotic guilt. You would realize that almost everything we do as humans are directed at sex and if you think otherwise, then our worlds must be apart.

Sex with all kinds of accolades plays a lot of roles in our lives; it eases pain, reduces anxiety, heals us, and gives us joy and many more I cannot list and will always come calling, as long as our systems are functional. 

Is it any wonder our generation connote every object or even ideas to sex? Almost everything now has a sex appeal, e.g. cars are now sexy, dresses are sexy, we have human figures which are sexy and those that are not for both genders. Motorbikes comes sexily done, not to talk about houses, our postures, gestures and just anything.

Our wise generation discovered miseducation and everything went haywire. Ladies, now spend all their time pursuing non-practical education for a Certificate; a mere printed paper whose lost can be replaced by an attestation and at the expense of their biological developments, signs and warnings which is irreplaceable by any sustainable method known by man. 

Formal education as a social value has eroded the science of nature which is dictated by all the changes we undergo as humans; changes that cannot be altered in any way whatsoever. 

Since no one can actually cheat nature in its entirety, young men and women are not able to ignore their heat feelings, so somehow, they find ways to gratify sex but only for sensual reasons thus pleasure, when they ought to have been married and if possible, still pursuing their miseducation. And since sex for any reason other than propagative purposes primarily will only result in pain, sickness, sorrow and death, our generation is having its fair share of all the above.

Young ladies are always queued up to carry out abortions of pregnancies they could have kept while most of them are busily educating themselves notwithstanding the fact that they still fail in the end and others end up losing their womb which brings about untold hardships and its related misery.

Both young men and women are contracting venereal diseases every hour thus failing themselves and society as a whole in the process, and all these comes with depression, not to talk about its rippling effects. Our generation will surely discourage and possibly laugh at an 18 year old girl who wants to marry. She would be asked if she knows what she is getting herself into. She would be asked to narrate all she knows about love, as if, that is what it should necessarily take. The person is responding to the biological changes in her system like menstruating periodically, the need for companionship and the need to be sexually satisfied and you talking about love? 

Sex has plunged many individuals and nations into destruction. Scandals in sex has brought many respectable men on their knees and brought untold hardships on them. Many embittered people are prowling in our society calling themselves broken-hearted just because their partners have refused to have sex with them any longer or have initiated sex with another person who eventually has come to occupy their space. 

People are killing others everyday because they have either perceived or found out that their partners are having sex with others and by now you cannot underestimate the power of sex and all the thoughts it provokes in our minds. It will interest you to note that, most issues that emanate from marital relationships all revolves around sex. Either the man wants more or less of sex to which the other partner is not enthused about or one of them is having it elsewhere or both.

You must be out of your senses if you have been underestimating sex anyway. Whether you are religious or an atheist, sex comes with a burden most people cannot carry especially if you fail to have it for the right reasons which is propagation.

God in his ten commandments given to Moses emphatically commanded Christians not to either commit fornication or adultery which outrightly bars the unmarried from having sex and I am wondering how you have fared with these two commandments or probably, it’s just one of those fictional stories and should be treated with the contempt it deserves.

Indiscriminate sex certainly has its consequences and no one can escape it even in the long run. Sex is an energy which must not be toyed with and if you are wondering how energetic sex can be, then watch how semen from a sex encounter metamorphoses a woman until she delivers another human being who becomes an extension of his family of procreation with an almost striking resemblance to its parents.

A friend of mine, Kofi Wilson, in a discussion sometime ago gave me an enlightened perspective on sex which has lingered on my mind for some time now. He sought to say, everyone has been bestowed with immense power or energy which is represented by sex or reproductive organs or even the number of sex we will have. As generative as sex is, every sex should be directed at propagating ourselves i.e. to multiply our empires to help us fight when the Armageddon war starts (Rev 16:16) 

We are supposed to be multiplying like the sand at the shore as instructed by God, our Creator, but the famed serpent whose encounter with Eve changed everything has managed to introduce to us, family planning methods, contraceptives, condom usage and other means of averting that generative force from coming into fruition. It doesn’t want us to be ready for the war. The serpent wants us to be powerless, frail, pathetic and hopeless soldiers even before the start of the war.

All other things being equal, if sex can bring forth another human being which becomes a force to reckon with, then, do you know how much energy in the form of human that you have been wasting which you might be compelled to account for someday?

Do you know how many other human beings you could have surrounded yourself with, with all the generative force which you have turned into a pleasure expedition and the pills you have been popping?

God must be very displeased with us but we can turn around and safeguard what is left of our curse where pain, humiliation, sorrow, sickness and eventual death will be our portion.

generative faculty. Let us stop using it as a means to an end. Let’s stop using it as collateral for school and hostel fees. Let’s not give it out for a film premiering at Silverbird or to make a fantasy come to fruition. Let’s stop using it as a means to securing a vacancy slot. Let’s also stop the practice of using what we have to get what we want because the only thing we should want from what we have is a child, lest we remain in our

If you know all about sex and respond to it accordingly but cannot stay without it, then get married and have it as much as you want so that you can also fall within the divine plan and probably get ready for the war.

Declare your assets!

Needlessly though, but, I wish to state that the caption of this piece was not borne out of mischief, since it’s bound to evoke all kinds of emotions and also serve as a reminder to most of you who were born in and around the 70’s, but has taken the pains to go through our national history, and are familiar with the (in)famous ‘declare your asset” mantra that characterized Ex-President Jerry John Rawlings’ war he waged to purge corruption in our dear nation, Ghana.

Declaring assets is something most women are very familiar with and dates back since time

immemorial. The idea was even pervasive because it was considered a value and held in high esteem, of which failure to comply did not only portray you as a deviant but also as someone who had a sinister motive. It was culturally upright and was even a norm and no one actually questioned the ease with which it was assimilated into the society and it is in this vein that men could ask their spouses or wives to account for their own monies or just anything they acquired which was worth buying.

A typical man would ask his significant other, where she got that new red dress in vogue or the new Gucci hand bag she’s wielding without batting an eyelid or feeling guilty as long as he didn’t buy it for her while it was out of place for the woman to ask the man where he got anything. It was a sacrilege. The prejudiced man that has been conditioned by his culture only goes to think of another man in the picture. And dominantly so, this reason comes to inform why a woman accounts for everything she has, so as to avoid any suspicion from the man and any unnecessary drama that might rear its ugly head in the near future.

In the not too distant past, women were not permitted by cultural expectations to own properties since they themselves were deemed properties of men. What did you expect? Till now, men have always been properties of other men, but thank God for liberation. They were even exempted from a share of their dying or demised Father’s properties which often came in the form of buildings, farm lands and other investments. They were only lucky to inherit the cooking utensils and other perceived feminine things their mum did not even own. 

Women were practically brought up not to even look forward to inheriting or owning anything which made them quite dormant, with regards to their outlook and worldview and it affected their insight, thus their resolve to fight and become independent individuals which is usually determined by your will and ability to earn. Per the dictates of societal norms, pursuits of these things for the woman were needless! 

A man and a woman may both be vested in their family business but when proceeds from their venture purchases any capital or big ticket goods, like buildings, cars, furniture or any other thing you can think of, it bears the man’s name without ado and should the woman even raise an eyebrow, she would be alluded as challenging the status of the man or is planning to cause trouble in the near future or in even worse situations, trying to emasculate the man. That must be some weird value then!

Fast forwarded to our modern dispensation, it is only noteworthy to laud ourselves for the wonderful and immense stride we have taken to advance our lives as a people. Women now own so much, so that, some are playing the bread winning roles in various homes. It is now convenient for a woman to own so much that, she can buy a whole market, and her man has no idea what is going on around him. Strange bedfellows, right?

However, in our back and forth movement, one thing is now significant. The woman has moved from the traditionally compelling asset declaring entity to a willful one who would only tell or draw her man into her economic affairs just because she wants to.

Even though, a few men can still not get their heads around the dramatic cultural change, and are grappling with the concept, thus, making it difficult for women to engage in their own economic affairs, because they think that, it is an erosion of one of their long held cultural values, women are engaging in all kinds of business transactions and enjoying their fruits thereof thereby improving the situation qualitatively. Only a few women still gives everything they earn to their husbands or better still account and explain every pesewa that goes through their hands. 

Alternatively, asset declaration as a phenomenon has only been bridged between the sexes but has gained prominence in Politics. In governance, it has to do with declaring your earnings, which is usually done on your behalf by your company who mandatorily informs the government about exactly how much you earn, so that, they can actuarially project your economic worth, thus what you can acquire and how far you can fare around. 

The information provided among other things, serves as a data for many stakeholders who consults it for decision making which influences how wealth or human resources are re-distributed. It is also imperative that, assets are declared so that the government can have his fair share of your earnings in the form of tax even though some entities understate what they are worth. 

Declaring assets has its own story through history and many Christians will be quick to recall what happened to Ananias and Sapphira when they failed to correctly declare their assets which they set out to do voluntarily. Tithing is also an aspect of declaring assets to both God and the clergy because all one has to do to know your total income is to multiply your tithe by ten and bingo, your income is known.

To this end, it is convenient to say declaring asset is not a new phenomenon and has been with us for long and has undergone radical and tremendous changes, however one thing is significant and that is women have been left off the hook to now own properties and not necessarily explain their whereabouts or how-comes.

The system has been liberalized enough for any gender with the wherewithal to go all out and still keep their secrets intact except the overarching government whose radar we cannot escape but to declare every asset we own.