The blame game

The first stop Gotti made was at the Black Kettle - a little snack joint in his neighborhood they prefer to call Café, but upon second thoughts he decided to move on to a bigger and a popular place, preferably a restaurant where his chances of making it would be more of a possibility than a probability.

Ever since his keen resolve to accept responsibility for every action and inaction of his, he’s been keener on making it materialize before dawn. He is resetting sail. He is tired of blaming his parents for his predicament and has resolved to redirect his venom to any unsuspecting entity. It has to be someone other than himself or his family.

Courts are lined up with aggrieved parties seeking redress for something they ought to have been

responsible for and School drop-outs are blaming their teachers for cracking the whips. In other instances, folks are cussing and blaming stuck doors that won’t open upon their shove and drunk drivers are blaming the Ministry of Roads and Highways for deliberately digging potholes in the middle of the streets. Likewise, ill-prepared folks who get themselves stranded and beaten by the rains are blaming the Weatherman for not ensuring clarity in his reports and Workers Unions are also suing their employers as though there were no agreements before their engagements and nothing seems to make sense.

The country is rife with non-existent jobs and the question has moved from who is being lazy or not, so he has to be strategic enough to get by. By all means necessary he has to keep his head above the water levels. Everybody is blaming the President, just somebody, and here he was blaming his poor Parents all the while.

He loathed himself for being oblivious of the obvious. And, how come no one has prompted him that it was unhealthy to be responsible for every action and inaction of his, all these while? Gbetor m3 nyo! Could this possibly explain why the newlywed who lives next door is always blaming their families for putting them to it without accepting responsibility for still being together and Frankie also holding on steadfastly to religion so he can easily blame his faith for his ineptitude and shortfalls? 

Why does the truth make one feel like a fool, because that is what he is feeling right now.

Enough is enough! He is going to make some money tonight from being irresponsible for his actions. And when all is said and done, he will compensate his parents with thirty percent of his Judgement debt for all the wrongful accusations and the blame game and keep the rest of the seventy percent for himself. The thoroughly planned and much awaited road trip with his fiance has to finally come off before the week ends. The thoughts of them jollying about, only succeeded in strengthening his resolve and it must come to pass!

He finally slowed down and stretched his neck to see if there were oncoming vehicles upon reaching his destination. You can never tell, so he is being extremely cautious. He cannot risk being knocked off by one reckless driver who will deny him his due and additionally blame him for being the cause, so he looked to the left, then to the right and finally to the left again before crossing over to the entrance of the busy restaurant.

He pushed the door gently and entered, quite nervous but resolute. He will not entertain any cold feet now, so he moves straight to one of the empty spots in the room. He is about to order a cup of hot tea and spill it on himself and sue someone. Simple as that! And backed by a good Lawyer, he is certain of being compensated at all cost. It is just a matter of time and the owners of the place would be begging him to drop all the charges he intends to raise against them. His Grande launch into this countrywide blame game only made him relish the days ahead.

Let the games begin...

“Waaiiter!” he called out to no one in particular and leaned back into his chair with a smirk on his face.
 
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Fool's Paradise

Trying to demystify why ‘fools fall in love” is one of the endless pursuit a man can indulge himself in, which begs the question, why amorous love has so many negative inferences and connotations, among which are “love is blind”,  “at the touch of love, every man becomes a poet”, “love is not for the faint-hearted".

This makes me wonder if the supposed wise people do not have emotions that are aroused by the attractiveness of the opposite sex and the need to copulate or perhaps, they have a way of going about it, which does not have effect on their senses, because it looks like the more I do, the more I get lost and at this point, I can only rescind my fate and choose between being a fool or a wise person.

Sometimes, the import of all these negative inferences makes meaning when you look at it from a different perspective, which makes you smile and nod your head to these age old truisms as a form of approval. 

A fool according to an unknown source can be someone who lacks commonsense and intelligence and mostly, it is what we display any time love comes knocking on our door. It is very easy to appear a fool or actually do relatively foolish things for the one you love and in worse cases, defy all beliefs which hitherto were sacred to you, just to please that one special person.

Being a fool in the context of love is not necessarily acting up in the circus or has nothing to do with comedy. What it simply means is to be thinking with your heart which is sometimes referred to as following one’s heart.

The head is physical and logical and tries to put things in its right perspective according to the bearer’s level of intelligence and expectations while the heart is illogical and can only be felt. The heart does not think and cannot think. It doesn’t know what is right or not and does not conform to norms. All it exudes is emotions and lots of it. 

How often have you not been lost at sea when asked to explain why you love the one in your life?

Have often have you not rationalized why the one you are with is the best thing that has ever happened to you even though you know parts or the whole of your explanation is false?

How about the lies you discovered s/he told you and still you found a way to make her/him stay with that big heart of yours, not to talk about the physical abuse?

How often have you not asked friends and family to mind their own businesses because it’s your life and you could choose whom to love against all odds?

So, why did you lie to your friends and Employer about the bruises and scars s/he left on your skin if you were actually in your senses and thinking right?

Can these aforementioned and a lot more rhetoric of this nature be considered as someone in their right senses?

Unfortunately, the mind and heart fails to coordinate when an issue of love arises and each in its own right chooses a different path. It is also convenient to state that no one in his right senses can love because loving is for fools who suppresses or discard some of their right thoughts just to be with the one they meant to be with.

The head with a fanciful brain, sits up in its quietude to prepare a checklist as to who should own its heart but the heart just chances upon someone and tasks the fellow to own its head, thus betraying the head-heart relationship. The heart does not mind any other stimuli apart from what it perceives and further blinds its eye to all the reasoning his mind and that of others will give it. It is the heart that beats at the sight of our captors, and it is the heart that breaks when that person does something awful against us or exits out of our life.

Furthermore, love is one thing no one has monopoly over and can barely control, unless they retreat from that pursuit, because it reins everyone in and makes them fools at one point or the other and I am sure you can readily attest to letting go of some ideals and terribly compromising on some commonsense, just to ensure that something was done right.

Additionally, knowing that love relationship is a paradise for fools, can make most of us relax and make things work by not being rigid and too logical because love in itself does not make sense and you can bear out to my assertion if you probably have asked yourself once or twice in the past, why some people end up as couples whom in your opinion do not belong at all and the most familiar one by asking yourself, why you ever dated that Ex of yours.

Finally, it is prudent to follow your heart and make a fool of yourself by falling in love and possibly staying on than trying to find logic in everything your lover does to the extent of separating every two months you fall in love, because in such instances, it will be convenient to say that, the wise has rather become a fool by not dwelling in the fool’s paradise.