Happy Mother's Day

It’s Mother’s day, and I couldn’t help but to join the fray to sing the most popular chorus trending everywhere, especially on social media to wish all deserving Mothers a “Happy Mother’s day”

Honestly, I think some Mothers deserve every bit of this attention and care we dote on them on Mother’s Day, every day of their lives while some are in deficit of the “Happy Mother’s day” accolade because they can only be best described as conduits through which these children made entry into this world.

A female should at least bear a child or two to be called a ‘Mother’ but the real test of Motherhood begins soon after delivering the first child (for those who don’t stop at one). However, the way some Mothers train and bring up their children leaves much to be desired. It discourages some yet-to-be mothers and other mothers alike. It simply leaves a sour taste in the mouth of society.

We hear instances of Mothers dumping babies at dump sites, in gutters, suffocating their babies to death and practically disposing their babies into death’s cold icy hands. They careless and gives you the impression that, the whole idea of carrying a nine month old pregnancy was/is a joke, however on such a day, I would like to tackle the root problem that makes women act this cold and insensitive to the very foetus they nurtured in their bellies for nine months not to talk about those who resort to abortion.

The root problem of all these pockets of barbaric stories we hear in our society is as a result of the behavior of Men. It is sad to note that the cause of all these are MEN. It is rightfully so, because for every pregnancy a woman conceives, a man is responsible but many of these men only manage to shift  all the responsibility that comes with the pregnancy and the eventual childbirth phase. These actions and more frustrate these so-called mothers who resort to all kind of actions just to get even or move on.

It must be debilitating for a young woman in retrospect to recall all the times, promises and the raunchy times she shared with a/her man only to be told in the face to go and look for the one responsible for her pregnancy. This alone is enough to poison the mind of the lady who would be left with so many options, of which she has no idea about to choose from, and your guess is as good as mine. She is predisposing herself to danger which can intend make the situation more dangerous.

Living in this society of ours where a man has to be responsible for a pregnancy, failure to name the one responsible for yours comes with a stigma so many people fight tooth and nail to discard. You are called all sorts of names as if the woman had sex with herself. Some are sent away from school and shamed in public and in most of these cases, supposedly responsible men in the eyes of the society are responsible for this acts.

Why is it so difficult for society to remember that men are usually responsible for these pregnancies and must be taken on, rather than the neglect and dejection they mete out to these ladies? The denial of responsibility for these pregnancies by men further worsen the cases of these ladies, because, in some cases, their family washes off their hands off them for dragging the name of the family into the mud and all of these and its rippling effect incapacitates them thus subjecting them into poverty, inadequate ways of living and inability to take care of themselves and the pregnancy, let alone the unborn child.

All a woman requires to thrive in such circumstances is support, love and care to nurture her pregnancy and the unborn child but lack of it can subject them to all kind of things, some of which can be disgusting, appalling and detrimental to herself and any dependent. 

Some of these women who brace the storm against all odds to bring these children up only succeed in nurturing children who become resentful towards them for the lack of a father figure who should be around to build character in these children through discipline and responsibility.

Men must be responsible in helping finish what they initiated with the women so that on a day like this, all women can be worthy of praise for bringing up children who without father issues. Every Child deserves to be brought up by the parents regardless of the situation that befalls them and it is the only way we can have a healthy society full of good mothers who will all be worth celebrating.

Meanwhile, I would like to use this medium while appealing to men to stop shirking responsibility for what they are responsible for wish all Mothers a “Happy Mother’s day”